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Divorce lessons from 'Jon & Kate'

The marital strife -- played out on TV -- of the Pennsylvania parents of 8 shows how the dilemmas of a breakup are compounded when there are multiple kids.

By SmartMoney

On television, "Jon & Kate Plus 8" has been a ratings bonanza. But as any divorce lawyer will tell you, "Jon Minus Kate" could be a complex financial maze -- with college tuition alone posing a million-dollar dilemma.

As Jon and Kate Gosselin's separation -- disclosed in the last episode of their reality show -- unfolds, much of the focus will be on what went awry in their marriage, the emotional impact on the couple's eight kids and how their divorce proceedings unfold.

But as with any divorce, financial questions can present complications. In the case of an unusually large family, such as the Gosselins, those complications can be particularly tricky. College costs alone for the eight Gosselin kids could amount to upward of $1 million, for instance. Though divorcing parents could agree simply to split the future costs of education, for a couple with many children, agreeing now how both spouses contribute to an ongoing savings plan could avoid future strife.

For now, the Gosselins are separating, and no one knows what plot twists might be in store -- reconciliation or eventual divorce. The couple are staying mum (except for photos of the family celebrating July Fourth together), and the show is on hiatus until Aug. 3. In terms of their arrangements, so far the Gosselins have divulged only that their children will remain in their house and that Jon and Kate will take turns with them.

Among the big money questions for a big family splitting up:

1. How are child support payments determined?

Kate's divorce filing did not ask the court to order Jon to pay child support. But generally, child support includes monthly payments for food, shelter, clothing and education. Most states use a model based on "income shares," in which children receive the same financial support before and after their parents are divorced. The noncustodial parent's contribution is based in part on the number of children in the family and the gross household income.

However, in Pennsylvania, where the Gosselins live, in cases in which both parties' net income exceeds $20,000 a month or the family has more than six children, the courts determine child support payments based on their expenses, says Julia Swain, an attorney at Philadelphia-based Fox Rothschild, which practices family law.

2. Who pays out-of-pocket health care expenses?

In most cases, children will remain covered under the health plan of the same parent who covered them prior to the divorce. However, parents may need to split unreimbursed medical expenses or out-of-pocket costs, depending on their incomes, says Daniel Clement, a family law and matrimonial attorney with offices in New York and New Jersey.

In Pennsylvania, the custodial parent must pay the first $250 of out-of-pocket health expenses per year per child, says Swain. After that, the parents will split the costs in proportion to their income. Those expenses can pile up quickly in big families. For example, the measles vaccine ProQuad costs $128.90 per dose in the private sector, according to the national Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. For a family of eight children, that's $1,031.20 for the first dose. If the family's health care plan has a high deductible or doesn't cover the vaccine, parents could have to pay these costs out of pocket.

If parents can't reach an agreement on these costs, the custodial parent should consider signing up for the health insurance plan that their employer provides -- assuming they have this option.

Typically, parents don't set up an account for these expenses, says Clement. Instead the agreement is laid out in the divorce paperwork. And often, the parent who receives the bill will send their ex an invoice for reimbursement.

Continued: Do the kids need 2 of everything?

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Tuesday, July 21, 2009 12:45:41 AM
Nightmare for years to come...!!
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 8:10:20 AM

Hmm?

 

Did they read / understand / apply all those Scripture verses they had all over their last home?

Tuesday, July 21, 2009 9:28:28 AM
Am I the only one who thinks it's appalling that parents are expected to pay for their children's college education?
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 12:47:11 PM
I agree with the Jewls99 - when did parents become responsible for college educations.  What happened to the kids working and paying for it themselves.  Of course my mother helped all she could but I never expected to be debt free when I left even though I worked 2 jobs and went to school.  Kids are lazy and parents allow them to be!  I think you can blame the parents for giving there kids everything they want or might want.Confused  Sad to think of what the kids of today will do when they become adults.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 1:28:09 PM
Seriously...Why is it a given that they have to pay for their kids' college?  My parents had 10 kids, no way did they have enough money to put us all through college.  But somehow, all 10 of us graduated with 4 year bachelor's degrees (and 2 with masters degrees and 2 with Doctorates).  We all paid our own way.  I paid for my own college, my wife paid for her own college, and we managed just fine.  My kids can do the same.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 1:30:38 PM
that's right Jewl99..........why help your kids when you can go out and blow your money yourself.............I know, a bigger tv, or a new ipod, or a manicure/pedicure day of pampering --- how about a new car that you can't afford, or breast enlargement.  For me, I would rather help my children than to be sucked into the selfish world of materialism that so many adults are in and can't climb out of their huge debt for things they don't 'need' in the first place.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 1:33:58 PM
@Enough of this
What makes you think paying for your kids' college helps them?  Does it free up *their* money for that big TV, ipod, or breast enlargement?

As long as we're up on our high horses, why not *really* help someone with that money and give it to aids or cancer research, instead of selfishly spoiling your kids?
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 2:46:22 PM
What does it matter to anyone else whether I chose to pay for my kids' college or not?  Or for that matter how I make or spend my money?  You have your own set of values and I have mine.  I certainly will not try to tell you how to live, so please don't tell me whether I should pay for my kids education or buy a TV or give my money to charity. 
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 3:03:44 PM
All you people who think you don't have an obligation to help your children with their college tuition have no idea what the word family actually means.  So I guess if your children get run over by a car after their 18 yrs old you can't and won't help them with the hospital bill, what with them being young adults and everything.  If that's your way of thinking, you as a woman, should of have never opened your legs to a man.  If your a man and also think that you have no obligation to help out your children with college tuition, then you're not really much of a father are you?  A family sticks together through every little event in life, good or bad.  For the sake of all of you who stop helping your children once they turn 18 or go off to college, you won't end up in a nursing home all alone with your poor miserable selves and no one visiting you.  Good Luck People.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009 3:44:41 PM
I think someone's missing the point...parents don't always have the means to pay for a college education.  My parents helped me in every way they could but the school bills were my problem to pay off.  And I thank God for that....it showed me at a very early age what financial responability is.  I know several people who had there college education handed to them on a silver platter and they cannot to this day rub 2 nickels together.  Was it hard when I first got out of college into the work force?  Yep...but I think I'm better off now later in life for it. And just for the record, when I was growing up and in school, my parents only owned ONE car, we did not have a computer in the house until I bought one, no big screen, no I-Pods, no trips to the spa, no eating out 3-4 times a week.  We lived in the same 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom house from the time I was in 1st grade until I finished college and moved out on my own.
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